Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee

Episode 33 | I’d Like to Return This Self-Doubt, Please and Thank You

In this episode, Rachel talks about inherited self-doubt, emotional conditioning, generational pain, relationships, and the invisible rules many of us grow up living by without ever consciously choosing them. From a moment at 19 years old that quietly changed how she viewed herself, to the emotional patterns that followed her into relationships, motherhood, and adulthood — this episode explores how self-doubt is often learned long before we ever realize it. Rachel shares honest reflections on: • emotional conditioning • people pleasing & validation • emotionally unavailable relationships • generational trauma • self-worth • healing without perfection • learning to trust yourself differently • and what it means to stop carrying beliefs that never truly belonged to you in the first place. This episode is raw, reflective, honest, and deeply human. Because maybe healing isn’t becoming a different person. Maybe it’s becoming aware enough to stop living automatically from wounds you never consciously chose.

Episode 32 | The Things People Say & Don't Think About

This episode is about grief, mental health, suicide, and the things people say without realizing who might be listening. Rachel opens up about losing her brother Jason to suicide, the complicated realities of mental health, addiction, shame, and the emotional aftermath left behind for families who survive it. But this conversation is bigger than loss. It’s about awareness. The way pain changes how you hear people. The way careless language can quietly reveal emotional blind spots. And the importance of creating spaces where people feel safe enough to say, “I’m struggling,” without fear of shame or judgment. This is not a clinical conversation. It’s a human one. If you’ve ever experienced grief, mental health struggles, addiction, emotional exhaustion, or watched someone you love suffer silently, this episode will probably hit close to home.

Episode 31 | You're Not Too Busy

Most people say they’re overwhelmed. But what if that’s not actually the problem? In this episode, I’m talking about the difference between being overcommitted, overwhelmed, and overinvolved — and how staying “busy” can become one of the easiest ways to avoid dealing with yourself. I talk about: - using busyness as distraction - being emotionally consumed by everything around you - why “I don’t have time” usually isn’t the full truth - how overinvolvement keeps your own life stagnant - and the shift that started changing how I use my energy This isn’t about perfection. I still catch myself doing it too. The difference now? I notice it faster. If your energy has been everywhere except where it actually needs to be… this episode is for you.

Episode 30 | Owning It vs. Renting It

This week, I had a realization I didn’t love. Not because anything big happened — but because I couldn’t ignore it anymore. I’ve been showing up… but not fully. Doing enough to say I did something, but not enough to actually move things forward. And once I saw it, I couldn’t unsee it. In this episode, I talk about: • the difference between showing up and fully showing up • how outside things can start dictating how you move • why doing “something” isn’t always the same as doing what you’re capable of • and what it actually looks like to start owning your life instead of just being in it This isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being honest. Because once you see where you’re holding back, you get to decide what to do about it. If something in this episode hits — follow the podcast, leave a review, or share it with someone who needs to hear it.

Episode 29 | You Don’t Have to Like Yourself to Love Yourself

Most people are waiting to feel ready before they give themselves anything good. Waiting to like what they see in the mirror. Waiting to fix the patterns. Waiting for the feeling to arrive first. The feeling isn’t coming first. The action is. In this episode Rachel Lee breaks down what self love actually looks like in real life — not the concept, not the aesthetic, but the actual practice of showing up for yourself when nobody is watching. Topics covered: Why most people are managing a life they didn’t choose — and don’t even know it, what loving yourself actually looks like day to day, why you can’t pour from an empty cup but nobody explains what filling it actually means, the first time Rachel took herself to dinner alone and what that represented, and why it all comes back to one question — can I count on me? This episode is not about perfection. It’s about one redirect. One moment of catching yourself talking shit to yourself and stopping it from going further. That’s the beginning. And that’s enough. Follow the podcast. Leave a review. Share it with someone who’s been waiting to like themselves first. Find Rachel at figuringitoutwithrachel — same everywhere.