Tidbits from Liwei

Honor The Adjustment Period

When two people come together, they’re bringing two nervous systems into relationship with one another. Each has learned how to stay safe in its own way, each has different protective strategies, and each carries different experiences and histories. I’m learning that when two nervous systems meet, there can be a natural and possibly lengthy adjustment period. Even though it can be slow, this period is crucial as both systems get accustomed to each other, protective mechanisms soften little by little, and both people begin to feel safer and more trusting of each other. This kind of safety doesn’t happen quickly. It takes time. Here are ways you can support me and my work: * If you love this newsletter, get value out of it, and want to support the time and work that goes into these posts, consider donating to me by becoming a paying subscriber even if you don’t get anything extra. You’ll encourage me to continue what I’m doing! * Shop for stickers and prints of my artwork via RedBubble [https://www.redbubble.com/people/Liwei-Doodles/explore?asc=u] (@Liwei-Doodles). I get a cut of what you buy. * Follow me on Instagram @tidbitsfromliwei Tidbits from Liwei is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber at liwei.substack.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit liwei.substack.com/subscribe [https://liwei.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_2]

Understand Each Other

Hi there! I’ve been learning to become more securely attached so that I can be in a healthier relationship. As part of this healing process, I have had to unlearn some things, rewire my nervous system, and see how things this time around are different than before. I’m going to try and start sharing tidbits of what I’ve learned so that it can help you be in healthier relationships too ◡̈ Here’s one of my first major takeaways: Take the time to slowly get to know each other. Here are ways you can support me and my work: * If you love this newsletter, get value out of it, and want to support the time and work that goes into these posts, consider donating to me by becoming a paying subscriber even if you don’t get anything extra. You’ll encourage me to continue what I’m doing! * Shop for stickers and prints of my artwork via RedBubble [https://www.redbubble.com/people/Liwei-Doodles/explore?asc=u] (@Liwei-Doodles). I get a cut of what you buy. * Follow me on Instagram @tidbitsfromliwei Tidbits from Liwei is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber at liwei.substack.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit liwei.substack.com/subscribe [https://liwei.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_2]

Choosing Steadiness Over Speed

One of the topics I return to often is slowing down. I seem to be learning this lesson again and again, because I still have a tendency to rush or make big moves. I suspect that it comes from having lived a life of frequent transitions since a young age…moving from place to place, adapting again and again. My body and nervous system are used to being in motion, so slowing down is an ongoing practice for me. Here, I share several practices that helped me feel more grounded and be ok with taking things slower. I hope these reminders and practices will help your life in some way so you can feel more stability, ease, and spaciousness, too. Here are ways you can support me and my work: * If you love this newsletter, get value out of it, and want to support the time and work that goes into these posts, consider donating to me by becoming a paying subscriber even if you don’t get anything extra. You’ll encourage me to continue what I’m doing! * Shop for stickers and prints of my artwork via RedBubble [https://www.redbubble.com/people/Liwei-Doodles/explore?asc=u] (@Liwei-Doodles). I get a cut of what you buy. * Follow me on Instagram @tidbitsfromliwei Tidbits from Liwei is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber at liwei.substack.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit liwei.substack.com/subscribe [https://liwei.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_2]

In Love With Ordinary Life

Ever since moving to Seattle, I’ve experienced greater degrees of joy and an enjoyment for life. I’m appreciating even more than before the mundane, ordinary, and simple aspects of daily life. You might even say…falling in love with the boringness. A little more joy is a big deal. Sometimes it comes not because everything got easier but because we found a new way to breathe through the hard parts. In the end, we remember what’s good even when it’s tough…it’s all so beautiful, isn’t it? This life of ours. Thanks for reading Tidbits from Liwei! This post is public so feel free to share it. Here are ways you can support me and my work: * I am a heart-centered coach who helps Asian millennials nurture healthier relationships with themselves and their families, so they can navigate Western and Eastern cultural norms and expectations with more self-trust, gentleness, and authenticity. Want to book a coaching session with me? Visit my website: alaliwei.com [https://alaliwei.com/] * If you love this newsletter, get value out of it, and want to support the time and work that goes into these posts, consider donating to me by becoming a paying subscriber even if you don’t get anything extra. You’ll encourage me to continue what I’m doing! * Shop for stickers and prints of my artwork via RedBubble [https://www.redbubble.com/people/Liwei-Doodles/explore?asc=u] (@Liwei-Doodles). I get a cut of what you buy. * Follow me on Instagram @tidbitsfromliwei Tidbits from Liwei is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber at liwei.substack.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit liwei.substack.com/subscribe [https://liwei.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_2]

Choosing A Place To Live

Have you ever wondered where you might want to live and build a life? I began exploring this question in 2022. I traveled the world in search of a “perfect” place but what I found along the way was something unexpected. More than a location, this tour around the world led me to learn more about myself, my core values, to be patient with how things are unfolding, to shift my relationship with uncertainty, and to make decisions when various options are all good. Here are ways you can support me and my work: * I am a heart-centered coach who supports Asians and millennials to deepen their relationship with themselves, build healthy and nourishing relationships, and cultivate a spacious yet meaningful life. Want to book a coaching session with me? Visit my website: alaliwei.com [https://alaliwei.com/] * If you love this newsletter, get value out of it, and want to support the time and work that goes into these posts, consider donating to me by becoming a paying subscriber even if you don’t get anything extra. You’ll encourage me to continue what I’m doing! * Shop for stickers and prints of my artwork via RedBubble [https://www.redbubble.com/people/Liwei-Doodles/explore?asc=u] (@Liwei-Doodles). I get a cut of what you buy. * Follow me on Instagram @tidbitsfromliwei Tidbits from Liwei is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber at liwei.substack.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit liwei.substack.com/subscribe [https://liwei.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_2]