Don’t Scare the Newbies!

Can W/we Be Your Weird Cousins: Kink At Pride

It's Pride Month, so in the first of O/our queer focused episodes kirizal and S jump straight in with the annual discourse topic, does kink belong at Pride? W/we also chat about O/our first Prides, the commercialisation and coorporate involvement in Pride season, bystander consent, children and families at Pride, purity culture and the very British fear of acknowleding sex, and lots more! kirizal also manages to make S feel "a bit sick" which, given some of the stuff that they say on a regular basis, is quite impressive. There's a bit of a hum in the background of part of this one - mainly at the start and fades pretty quick once it gets going - once again technology has been vexing U/us. Apologies! Follow kirizal’s blog and find all their socials plus O/our merch at www.kirizal.com [http://www.kirizal.com] Support U/us on Patreon at patreon.com/dontscarethenewbies [http://patreon.com/dontscarethenewbies]

Just me And The Cat: Addiction, Recovery, & A Little Bit Of Kink

After the S-heavy long distance episode, W/we thought it was kirizal's turn to have the spotlight and dive into one of their specialist topics - addiction and recovery. kirizal spent most of their 20s battling mental health issues which spiralled into drug dependency and a crisis that almost cost them their life. In this episode W/we talk about that journey through into recovery, unmasking the darker side of 12 step programs, and kirizal's post-recovery life and the shift to a recovery-capital based moderation approach. But what does that have to do with kink? W/we talk about pleasure-seeking as a coping mechanism, neurodiversity crossovers, self-medicating of shame, and the complex relationship people can have with control and surrender. Plus, at the centre of it all connection - the healing power of community. Content Note: This is an emotional one - detailed discussion of drug use including intravenous drug use, overdose, suicide attempt, suicide, pet death, transphobia, shame, "13th stepping" sexual abuse, domestic violence and sexual assault within 12 step groups. Follow kirizal’s blog and find all their socials at www.kirizal.com [http://www.kirizal.com] Support U/us on Patreon at patreon.com/dontscarethenewbies [http://patreon.com/dontscarethenewbies]

Getting Very Very Sleepy: Hypnosis with Lana and Edward

Lana and Edward join kirizal and S to give U/us an introduction into the wild world of erotic hypnosis. Navigating censorship to find resources, what appeals about the closest thing to magic and mind control that people can tap into, favourite experiences and riskiest mistakes, managing risk, and an overview of how it works. This episode may have unlocked a new kink for U/us - and offers a fascinating insight into an often hidden area of kink. Content Note: Discussion of psychology heavy play including false perception of serious injury, inability to recognise a partner, and reduced intelligence General themes of mind control and heavy consensual non-consent. Discussion of high risk play and ethically grey areas. Check out @HipHypnotist on Fetlife for resources on hypno play Follow kirizal’s blog and find all their socials at www.kirizal.com [http://www.kirizal.com] Support U/us on Patreon at patreon.com/dontscarethenewbies [http://patreon.com/dontscarethenewbies]

Just Hit me With Your Car: Crash (1996)

Once again kirizal and S are watching a movie, and James Spader is playing a pervert (with hair)! This week W/we're discussing the 1996 movie Crash - but if you haven't seen it, come on in, the plot is light and the episode gets deep! W/we're here for the controversy and censorship that surrounded Crash on release, the intersection between sex, technology, and urban isolation, and asking the question does representation matter when fetishism is portrayed so far outside reality? Plus - what is non-diagetic kink, what can Crash tell U/us about how the eroticisation of a universal threat works, and a look at intensity as a kink in itself. Content Note: This episode contains - as you might expect - discussion of car crashes, including injuries and fatalities. W/we also discuss consensual non-consent play including simulated sexual assault, fantasies about sexual assault, and misogyny. Follow kirizal’s blog and find all their socials at www.kirizal.com [http://www.kirizal.com] Support U/us on Patreon at patreon.com/dontscarethenewbies [http://patreon.com/dontscarethenewbies]

Thicker Than Water: Playing with Blood

This week, kirizal and S get into all the gory details of blood play. From the visual appeal to the perceived - if not always actual - intensity, W/we chat about what it does for U/us and the unique sensations. W/we share some memorable scenes - including the first time W/we met and the first time W/we had sex, plus chat toys and techniques, the details of planning a scene, and the all important safety and risk tips. Plus - S finds out for sure that They're not a masochist in quite a spiky way, and kirizal finally discovers a kink they don't like. Content Note: Strong, bloody violence throughout! Discussion includes needles, scalpels, spiky impact play, menstruation, and consensual non-consent play. Follow kirizal’s blog and find all their socials at www.kirizal.com [http://www.kirizal.com] Support U/us on Patreon at patreon.com/dontscarethenewbies [http://patreon.com/dontscarethenewbies]