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Be Kind To Yourself: The Language You Use Is Shaping Your Life

The words you say about yourself, you say so many more times inside your own head. Are they kind ones? Beth has made "I'm terrible with tech" her personal truth for years. She said it so often, to so many people, that it became a narrative everyone believed, including her. And it kept a podcast kit in a box for four years. In this episode she talks about the language we use towards ourselves, how a throwaway joke or a self-deprecating comment becomes a belief, and why the way we speak to ourselves matters more than almost anything else when life gets difficult. She also reads another blog post written in the days before her craniotomy. Not about fear or uncertainty this time, but about kindness. The healthcare assistant with the enormous knockers and the Geordie accent. The 84-year-old woman who hobbled over to hold her hand. The taxi driver who looked up brain food on Dr Google while he waited three hours in a car park. Build the toolkit before you need it. This episode is part of the toolkit. Would you speak to your best friend the way you speak to yourself? This one's worth sitting with. Email: ⁠⁠beth@resetwithbeth.co.uk⁠⁠  Website: ⁠⁠resetwithbeth.co.uk⁠⁠ Instagram: @reset_with_beth

The Loneliness Nobody Talks About: When You're Surrounded By People But Still Alone

You don't have to be isolated to feel lonely. Sometimes it hits hardest when everyone else seems to be getting on just fine without you. Beth is an extrovert with a great support network and a lot of people around her. She never expected to feel lonely. And then she found herself eating a Sunday roast alone in her kitchen, her girls watching telly in the other room, and it hit her like a wall. In this episode Beth talks honestly about the loneliness that doesn't look like loneliness from the outside. The kind that comes after a divorce, after a health crisis, after the calls stop and the weekends empty out and everyone else disappears back into their neat little family units. And then she gets practical. Because loneliness breeds more loneliness unless you take action. What she actually did about it, why Sunday brunches changed everything, and why most people aren't ignoring you. They're just waiting to be asked. Email: ⁠⁠beth@resetwithbeth.co.uk⁠⁠  Website: ⁠⁠resetwithbeth.co.uk⁠⁠ Instagram: @reset_with_beth

What Not To Say To Someone With A Brain Tumour (And What To Say Instead)

What Not To Say To Someone With A Brain Tumour (And What To Say Instead) "At least it's not cancer." "Could be worse." "You'll be fine." Please. Stop. When someone is going through something really difficult, most people mean well. They really do. But meaning well and saying the right thing are two very different things. In this episode Beth shares the things people actually said to her after her brain tumour diagnosis. From the woman in aisle three of Tesco who hadn't been in touch for years, to the person who cheerfully mentioned their friend with a brain tumour died. All well-meaning. All spectacularly unhelpful. But this episode isn't just about what not to say. Beth gets into the practical how-tos of actually showing up for someone going through something hard. The phrases that open a door instead of closing one. Why saying "I don't know what to say" is one of the most powerful things you can offer. And why fixing, reassuring and shutting things down is the one thing people need least. We all deserve to know what to say in difficult times. This episode will help. Email: ⁠⁠beth@resetwithbeth.co.uk⁠⁠  Website: ⁠⁠resetwithbeth.co.uk⁠⁠ Instagram: @reset_with_beth

How To Handle Uncertainty When You Can't Control The Outcome

You don't need to control everything. You just need to control your bubble. Uncertainty is uncomfortable. Not knowing what's coming, not being able to plan, not having the answers. For women who are used to holding it all together, that feeling can be completely destabilising. In this episode Beth talks openly about living with uncertainty, including what it's actually like to be on watch and wait with a brain tumour that has regrown. Not knowing if anything will happen. Not knowing when. Just waiting. She shares the tools that genuinely help, including the bubble of control concept she uses with her clients every day. Your beliefs, your thoughts, your reactions. That's your bubble. Nobody gets in, and you don't need to reach outside it either. Because you can't always change the destination. But you can absolutely choose your experience of the journey. It's okay not to have all the answers. This episode will remind you why. Email: ⁠⁠beth@resetwithbeth.co.uk⁠⁠  Website: ⁠⁠resetwithbeth.co.uk⁠⁠ Instagram: @reset_with_beth

Toxic Positivity vs Real Optimism: Why "You'll Be Fine" Isn't Helpful

"It'll be fine." Sounds kind. Isn't. Beth is irritatingly positive. She'll own that. But there's a world of difference between genuine optimism and toxic positivity, and in this episode she's drawing a very clear line between the two. Toxic positivity isn't kindness. It's a shutdown. It tells the person sharing something difficult that their feelings are too much, that they're overcomplicating it, that they should just think brighter thoughts and move on. And if you've ever been on the receiving end of it, you'll know exactly how that lands. Beth talks about what real support actually looks like, why most people just need to be heard rather than fixed, and how to show up properly for someone who's struggling, without reaching for the "don't worry, you'll be fine" get out. She also explains what she actually means by pragmatic optimism. And why finding pockets of joy in the dark is nothing like pretending the dark isn't there. There's a difference between choosing your lens and invalidating someone else's feelings. This episode explains it. Email: ⁠⁠beth@resetwithbeth.co.uk⁠⁠  Website: ⁠⁠resetwithbeth.co.uk⁠⁠ Instagram: @reset_with_beth