Spoiled Mind - Lets be Real

Lola is 21 years old and originally from Buenos Aires. She works as a freelance Web Designer and sings. Lola is not only beautiful but has a big heart and even bigger dreams. Starting with my two favorite questions Lola had a simple one-word answer for both questions. Hear the podcast to find out yourself. SEX DATE ON TINDER IN ARGENTINA We meet on Tinder and we were both in underwear making this Interview. While chatting on Tinder we quickly find out that we want similar things. Not only Sex, but a good time, including talks, laughs and so on. Overall, just a good time! I booked the Hotel and Lola brought the wine. She didn’t have much expectation to be honest, but a feeling… In Argentina, it is not easy and doesn’t work out often to meet someone you don’t know. Nevertheless, expectations often lead to disappointment. She just had a feeling that I am a good guy and I hope she is right about that. HOW LISTENING CAN HELP MORE THAN SEX Our meeting starts very differently as we talked a lot about serious topics. Even further, very personal topics about her life and fears. For me, in the moment, it was more important that she feels mentally good. Sex can be a strong physical need but maybe we compensate it with some mental issues sometimes. It can be much more valuable to simply be there and to listen to someone. I thought that I should be that person. We also come to a very interesting topic I like to talk about. “You can control all about yourself”. It is true. Physically and mentally you decide what’s going to happen. Your thoughts, your fitness, your mental state it is all you! The only thing which is out of your control is the outside world. How people treat you, think about you or what’s so ever. They are all individual and even treating them equally they may think differently about you. As simple as it is. Again, how you feel or what you do is always up to you! And let me tell you, you are capable of incredible things and you can do whatever you want BIGGEST TURN ON FOR LOLA The biggest turn-on for Lola is being human. She mentioned that is very different to have sex with girls and boys. Women know each other and have more confidence to communicate their thoughts and needs. In her opinion Argentinian men are not the best. “You never know how they react”. That’s what she is afraid of. Lola just likes people! Again, for her it is not important if you are men or woman, but you need your brain and feelings. Lola mentioned that there are relationships, where some girls need to fake orgasm for years. Living in fear of their husbands. I don’t want to imagine that, and it is difficult for me to believe, but I leave it here. Some things I might never fully understand simply because I am a man, but that is why I am here and that’s why I am doing this blog/podcast as well. Giving everyone who wants to speak a voice and a platform. No matter what believe or experience. Lola wants equality. The same respect for everyone, salary, rights and she want women to be heard. She doesn’t like that there are some women, who talk about rights for women but don’t do anything. I loved to see her passion for this topic growing over the interview. How do you feel? The post Interview before having Sex Lola (Argentina) [https://www.spoiled-mind.com/stories/interview-before-having-sex-lola-argentina/] appeared first on Spoiled Mind [https://www.spoiled-mind.com].

Anna is 19, Design Student and lives in Colombia. She sounds and looks so innocent, but she is not. We meet originally on OkCupid / Bumble. During the chat, she answered my two favorite questions and had a look at my blog. She was very surprised by my perspective. Mainly because we think very differently. During that time, she had a lover and we didn’t meet. A couple of weeks later we chatted again and decided to meet. It wasn’t easy as Ana got nervous couple of times last-minute and canceled. Another time it was me who canceled. At the end, we meet and she got positively surprised. We had a pleasant chat and decided to go to my place. WHY GIRLS LIKE OLDER MAN Anna likes older men – much older considering her young age! She likes the experience in and outside the bed of older men – “They know what they want and are more confident”. She simply wants to collect more experience and maybe find love. At the beginning, she wasn’t sure about going out with older men. Normally just dating guys in her age she loved going out with older men after she tried the first time. Sexually it is important for her to have everything with consent. It didn’t come out if men, women or both should start but we talked about couple of signals. That could be touching, asking for going somewhere for example. COLOMBIAN GIRL LOOKS FOR SUGAR DADDY She would like to find a sugar Daddy but also is not sure if it is for her. She tried a Sugar Daddy App and liked that men say what they want. What didn’t come out well in the interview is that we discussed a lot of what a sugar daddy means for her and she also secretly looks for love and a stable relationship. Not denying that she is young and is financially not independent. Overall a very typical picture in Colombia if you ask me. More about it maybe in another podcast. HOW INDIGENOUS PEOPLE GET SEXUALIZED In the end we talked about indigenous people because she is. This topic maybe doesn’t fit well in the podcast episode, but Anna brought a very valid point there. Often indigenous characters in movies get sexualizes. We all know Pocahontas, don’t we?! But hear the podcast to hear more about it. The post Interview with Anna after having Sex (Medellin) [https://www.spoiled-mind.com/podcasts/interview-with-anna-after-having-sex-medellin/] appeared first on Spoiled Mind [https://www.spoiled-mind.com].

Welcome back with the Interview after having sex with Alexa in Colombia. Overall, she finds the Sex creative. In a funny way she described as great filling all wholes. It was funny to hear, but overall we tried couple of different positions and things. Most exciting for her was one position I call “The Star”, Anal and fingering her. ANAL SEX IS WRONG PLEASURE We talked a little bit more about double penetration (in this case my Penis in her ass and my thumb in her Vagina). She described it as more intense and a combination of pain and pleasure at the same time. A funny expression of her was “wrong pleasure”, which I find kind of funny. It was interesting to hear that Alexa actually never had an orgasm with a man before (I guess that includes me as well). In her opinion, it is most likely a mental thing. She needs a lot more stimulation which maybe can take hours. Strangely enough, she said that if she masturbates, she could cum in around 30-60 seconds… So probably it is a huge mental block, but who knows?! ONE OF MY BIGGEST TURNS ON: SQUIRTING Girls who know me a bit better probably know that I am really into squirting. I like it from a viewer perspective but also doing it practically. I told her this before in chats and Alexa was very skeptical about it. Still, she was open about it and willing to try. Surprisingly she squirted a couple of times and likes it – with room for improvement (P.S. Insider Tipp: Maybe try in the shower if she feels unsure about if it is squirting or peeing). My theory is that girls can have 3 different kinds of orgasm: Clitoral, Vaginal and Squirting. She said squirting is similar, with great pleasure, but still different than an orgasm. We had a little discussion about being kinky. Face licking (I can admit I find it funnier than a turn on) is not her thing, but she likes it a bit rougher till the edge of forcing, strangle and light BDSM. HOW TO HAVE GOOD SEX We also talked about the difficulty of continue or switching some things you do sexually. If you do the same things for too long it may become less intense and she/he starts to feel numb or gets bored. On the other side If you are on the right spot, with the perfect speed, intensity, and position you better not let go because she/he is about to cum. But as we said it is often difficult to read the body language and it requires some trust, respect and a bit familiar with your partner. That’s why so many people say that sex with their partner is mostly better! WHO IS UP FOR SEXUAL EQUALITY? I am 100% in for sexual equality, which means for me that there are two people who deserve sexual pleasure and a woman has the right to help herself! Sexual politeness is arguable in my opinion. That doesn’t mean you always do things you don’t want to get what you want but there are things women avoid doing because it feels “wrong”?! Alexa also mentioned that sexual culture in Colombia is very man focused. The post Interview with Alexa after having Sex (Medellin) [https://www.spoiled-mind.com/podcasts/interview-with-alexa-after-having-sex-medellin/] appeared first on Spoiled Mind [https://www.spoiled-mind.com].

I had a couple of Interviews before and after having sex and I will continue so. I really like this kind of series as it shows several interesting things. I do think that we are always more open and honest after having Sex. We are open and talk more about topics we didn’t talk about before and we are straighter and more open about things. But maybe I am wrong, and it is just a “feeling”. A bit background about how we meet and who is Alexa. We meet through Tinder and meet once before we meet to have Sex. Alexa is born in Colombia but spends a while in Belgium. I would consider her a Latina, but of course, some behaviors are very European. Her Tinder Profile was straight forward saying that she looks for both. Love and Sex without mentioning Sex itself, but “kinky fun”. MY TWO FAVORITE QUESTIONS The Interview with Alexa started with my two-favorite question. Maybe listen to the “podcast about what is the meaning of Life and What is love [https://www.spoiled-mind.com/podcasts/2-favourite-question/]”  before. The first question was probably a misunderstanding as I quickly continued to the second question – my bad. Alexa had a pretty scientific approach to the question of what is love. At least she didn’t think that these questions are stupid. Talking about reproducing was interesting, especially because Sex is in her opinion something about pleasure. On the other hand, and that was didn’t come out in the interview, was the kind of keen to get a kid soon even if she is not sure about time and partner. MAYBE IT IS NOT ALL ABOUT SEX I did a couple of mistakes in the podcast and jumped very quickly into different topics. I am sorry. The topic about using Sex to condition the partner is a real thing and I should follow up on that rather than trying to get a story out of her if she ever used Sex to get something she wanted. Anyway… After asking her what she is into (sex half asleep, Love sex, but also hardcore like anal or group sex) she doesn’t seem to be super keen to continue with sexual topics. I had another hard cut and continues with something more recent. IS CLIMATE CHANGE REAL? Alexa thinks climate change is a real thing and a problem for future generations. Maybe that is one of the reasons she hesitates to bring another human being to this earth? Who knows. Likely little things would help our earth already. For example fly little, eat less meat and be more aware of the environment. I totally agree and maybe we have another episode about that?! The Interview before having Sex ended with the open question from her “what I worry about”. We talked for a bit afterward. Also about the Podcast, some expectations or things we might want to try/do and had some fun. If you are curious about the Interview after having sex stay tuned and watch this space. You will be surprised =) The post Interview with Alexa before having Sex (Medellin) [https://www.spoiled-mind.com/podcasts/interview-with-alexa-before-having-sex-medellin/] appeared first on Spoiled Mind [https://www.spoiled-mind.com].

PHD STUDENT IN SOCIOLOGY – SEXUAL STIGMAS, GENDER ROLES AND MUCH MORE It is a pleasure to interview such a gifted and knowledgable women doing her PhD in Sociology. This podcast is very long (38 Minutes) but you can’t keep the topics in 10-15 Minutes. I also don’t want to spoil you with too much content. Also because I am not an expert at all and write something she didn’t say or mean. Just listen to the podcast and enjoy. We talk about her personal background: Why she starts her career in this field and why she is passionate about these topics. Sexual stigmas, for example, are still a very hot topic in modern society. Also from an economic perspective, where companies are more or less interested in a healthy diversity of the workforce. EVERYTHING AROUND HOMOSEXUALITY IS STILL ONE OF THE BIGGEST ISSUES In recent years there is a lot of progress for having equal rights for homosexual people. Still, there is so much more to do. Teaching kids, start not to stigmatize sex in general and so on. There are tons of studies out there which prove that gender inequality (or Gender Pay Gaps) is real and there are still people who doubt that. So, it is already difficult to bring everyone on the same base if you have to fight against these people. Social issues are always complicated. There is no right answer to many of the questions we maybe ask ourselves. From a scientific perspective sociologist also don’t give any guidance. They just present facts or results of there studies. Another interesting topic for me was to discuss the roles of society in general, governments and companies. Who is responsible for driving change and how far can a government go to support in the form of laws or rules to do so. Doesn’t it all start with people? How we raise our children? How we see and treat other people? And not to forget how media is influencing our opinion. BIOLOGICAL GENDER, SEX AND SEXUAL PREFERENCES First to understand the difference and basics. Transgender, Intersex, Gay – What does it all mean? Sex – Biological Sex is normally male of the female which mostly will be decided by external genitals. Sex could be also defined by chromosomes. Depending on the combo (again, I am not an expert). Intersex people mostly have a not clear definition of external genitals, organs or chromosomes. Gender – can be a Social Characteristic. Transgender often don’t identify themselves with the biological sex they are born with. Transgender just means everything which probably goes beyond that. Sexual Preferences – is a personal definition of what you are attracted to. All these buzz words like Sapiosexual, Pansexual, BDSM or Poly is going in that direction. The post Interview with PhD student – Sexual Stigmas and Sexuality [https://www.spoiled-mind.com/podcasts/interview-with-phd-student-sexual-stigmas-and-sexuality/] appeared first on Spoiled Mind [https://www.spoiled-mind.com].