Better Sex

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman delves into the importance of being able to say 'no' in intimate relationships. She discusses how the ability to decline is crucial for fostering a healthy and enjoyable sex life, free from distress and negative experiences. Through a session example and advice for both partners, she explains the positive impact that setting boundaries can have on mutual satisfaction. Listeners are encouraged to understand the difference between a definitive 'no' and a potential 'maybe,' and to use these insights to improve their intimate connections. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex 00:47 The Importance of Saying No 01:12 Client Case Study: The Consequences of Not Saying No 04:30 Exploring the Maybe: When to Say Yes 06:56 Encouragement and Final Thoughts 08:06 Closing Remarks and Listener Engagement Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast [https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast] Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast [https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast] How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com [https://www.sexhealthquiz.com/] The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com [https://www.intimacywithease.com/] The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com [https://www.sexwithoutstress.com/] Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com [https://www.intimacywithease.com/] Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass [https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass]

In this episode of the 'Better Sex' podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman talks with Dr. Susie Gronski about the role of pelvic floor physical therapy for men, particularly focusing on pelvic pain. Dr. Gronski shares her journey into the field, driven by the courage of men seeking help for pelvic issues amidst a healthcare landscape that often overlooks male pelvic floor therapy. They discuss common conditions treated by pelvic floor physical therapy, such as erectile dysfunction, incontinence, and chronic pelvic pain syndromes. The discussion delves into the biopsychosocial approach to diagnosis and treatment, emphasizing the integration of physical, emotional, and social factors. Dr. Gronski explains the examination process, stressing the importance of creating a comfortable and safe environment for patients. The episode highlights the need for increased awareness and tailored care for men’s pelvic health. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast 00:48 Exploring Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy for Men 01:59 Guest Introduction: Dr. Susie Gronski 03:55 Understanding Pelvic Pain in Men 04:49 Causes and Symptoms of Pelvic Pain 13:48 Emotional and Psychological Factors 19:08 Role of Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy 20:55 Understanding Pain and Its Role 21:38 Empowering Through Knowledge and Experience 22:56 Clinical Philosophy and Movement-Based Therapy 24:07 Touch Therapy and Sensory Integration 25:41 Creating a Safe and Collaborative Environment 26:32 The Initial Exam Process 28:12 Detailed Examination and Patient Comfort 30:07 Addressing Patient Concerns and Misconceptions 34:46 Finding and Connecting with Dr. Susie G 35:36 Conclusion and Listener Engagement Take Jessa's quiz at https://www.sexlifequiz.com [https://www.sexlifequiz.com/] Bio: With over a decade of expertise in pelvic and sexual health, Dr. Susie Gronski is a Licensed Doctor of Physical Therapy, Pelvic Health Specialist, AASECT Certified Sex Counselor and Educator, and the founder of a multidisciplinary pelvic health clinic in Asheville, North Carolina. As a leading influencer and content creator on YouTube, she educates and empowers individuals by addressing taboo pelvic and sexual health topics, actively working to dispel misinformation. To learn more about her and her team, visit drsusieg.com. https://drsusieg.com/ [https://drsusieg.com/] https://www.youtube.com/@DrSusieGronski [https://www.youtube.com/@DrSusieGronski] patreon.com/drsusieg [http://patreon.com/drsusieg] Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast [https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast] Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast [https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast] How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com [https://www.sexhealthquiz.com/] The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com [https://www.intimacywithease.com/] The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com [https://www.sexwithoutstress.com/] Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com [https://www.intimacywithease.com/] Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass [https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass]

In this episode of Better Sex, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman tackles one of the most common and vulnerable questions: “Is there hope for my sex life?” Jessa explores the roots of hopelessness in intimate relationships, explains how communication and teamwork can reignite connection, and shares practical strategies for couples to rediscover joy and fulfillment in their sex lives. Whether you’re struggling with mismatched desire, stress, or just feeling stuck, this episode offers hope, insight, and actionable advice. [0:46] Common concerns: Feeling hopeless about sex and relationship struggles. [1:18] The foundation of hope: Love, friendship, and goodwill in relationships. [1:43] Communication and teamwork as keys to improvement. [2:17] Avoiding polarization: Working together against the problem. [2:41] Redefining sex: Moving beyond rigid expectations and goal orientation. [3:29] The stress of goal-oriented sex and how to shift perspective. [4:24] Two types of sexual desire: Proactive vs. reactive. [4:42] Understanding and embracing reactive desire. [5:40] Building hope: Challenging assumptions and valuing both partners’ experiences. [6:17] Introducing the “How Big a Problem Is My Sex Life?” quiz. [6:45] Using the quiz to assess your relationship and find hope. [7:08] Encouragement and support for finding hope in your sex life. [7:21] Outro: Where to find more resources and episodes. [7:36] Thank you message and invitation for feedback and reviews. [7:56] Closing credits and theme music. Take the quiz: https://www.sexlifequiz.com [https://www.sexlifequiz.com/] Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast [https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast] Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast [https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast] How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com [https://www.sexhealthquiz.com/] The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com [https://www.intimacywithease.com/] The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com [https://www.sexwithoutstress.com/] Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com [https://www.intimacywithease.com/] Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass [https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass]

In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, the guest is Stephanie Konter-O'Hara, a therapist and mother of a 19-month-old baby. Stephanie shares her personal and professional insights on how having children can impact sex life and intimate relationships. Key topics discussed include the physical, emotional, and relational challenges faced by new parents, the misconceptions around postpartum recovery, the perimenopausal state induced by breastfeeding, and the importance of communication and shared values in maintaining intimacy. Stephanie also talks about the role of compassion, understanding, and seeking therapy when necessary, to navigate the complex dynamics of parenting and relationships. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast 00:49 Guest Introduction: Stephanie Konter-O'Hara 01:22 Personal Story and Passion for Sexual Health 03:21 Physical and Emotional Challenges Postpartum 04:00 Common Barriers to Postpartum Intimacy 08:42 Relational Dynamics and Mental Load 24:31 Communication and Compassion in Relationships 26:44 Seeking Help and Resources 27:54 Conclusion and Contact Information Want to share your story on the podcast? It can be anonymous! Email us at info@intimacywithease.com Bio: Stephanie Konter-O'Hara, LPC, ACS is passionate about making space in the world for everyone to be themselves and live in the most connected and authentic way that they can. She is a Mom, Podcaster, Licensed Mental Health Therapist, and a Group Practice Owner in Colorado. She is originally from the East coast and enjoys living out West where its a bit more peaceful and can spend most of the year enjoying the outdoors. When Stephanie is most joyous and free she is spending time with her friends, family (including her daughter), and her dogs. She truly loves to help people explore their relationships with themselves and believes that we should all surround ourselves with more opportunities to connect with our village. www.wellmindedcounseling.com [http://www.wellmindedcounseling.com/] Workbook: Becoming Mommy https://a.co/d/d6EGJ1K [https://a.co/d/d6EGJ1K] Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast [https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast] Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast [https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast] How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com [https://www.sexhealthquiz.com/] The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com [https://www.intimacywithease.com/] The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com [https://www.sexwithoutstress.com/] Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com [https://www.intimacywithease.com/] Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass [https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass]

In this episode of 'Better Sex,' host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses the common issue of being overly focused on pleasing one's partner in a sexual relationship. She explores how this can lead to unintended pressure, diminishing genuine intimacy and connection. Through examples from her client interactions, Jessa illustrates how detaching from the expectation of sexual pleasure and being genuinely receptive to a partner's desires can enhance the relationship. Key strategies include slowing down, truly listening to one's partner, and honoring their current wants and needs, whether they are sexual or not. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex 01:01 The Pitfalls of Wanting to Please Your Partner 02:19 Understanding Your Partner's Desires 03:19 Practical Tips for Improving Intimacy 05:34 Conclusion and Listener Engagement Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast [https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast] Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast [https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast] How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com [https://www.sexhealthquiz.com/] The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com [https://www.intimacywithease.com/] The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com [https://www.sexwithoutstress.com/] Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com [https://www.intimacywithease.com/] Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass [https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass]