“You Are A Lot” (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)

In this episode: Jen opens up about her surprising Autism diagnosis last summer, which added AuDHD to her identity alongside ADHD. She shares how this revelation unexpectedly tied together all the loose ends of what she’d felt was “wrong” her entire life. Jen also reflects on how many therapists missed what now seems like an obvious diagnosis, and why so many professionals still struggle to understand this complex neurotype. 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! [https://www.brain.fm/alotpod] Embrace Autism is a website that has many diagnostic tests to assess Autism - click here. [https://embrace-autism.com/autism-assessments/] SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, video classes, AMA’s, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT in the “You Are a LOT” podcast Patreon community [https://www.patreon.com/c/alotadhdpod]. Start with a 7-day-free-trial at any level, and when you join take 15% off if you subscribe annually. 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! [https://www.brain.fm/alotpod] Visit the “You Are A Lot” (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage [http://www.jenkirkman.com/alotpod] Subscribe to the “This Is A Lot” Newsletter [https://www.jenkirkman.com/newsletter] 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals [https://www.hugimalsworld.com/JENKIRKMAN] 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks [https://appointed.co/JENKIRKMAN] 20% off UnHide Weighted Blankets & PIllows [https://unhide.us/JEN20] Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com   SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Embrace Autism is a website that has many diagnostic tests to assess Autism - click here. [https://embrace-autism.com/autism-assessments/] ADDitude Magazine: A Living Contradiction; the AuDHD Experience [https://www.additudemag.com/audhd-autism-adhd-experience/] Lindsey Mackereth Substack [https://lindseymackereth.substack.com]

In this episode: Jen talks about her frustration and anger at the gravely irresponsible and chock full of what seems like willful disinformation spreading article in the Sunday New York Times Magazine titled “Have We Been Thinking About ADHD All Wrong?” Jen let’s the experts speak for her and she reads the intelligent analysis done by Dr. Russell Barkley and the editors of ADDitude Magazine. SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, video classes, AMA’s, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT in the “You Are a LOT” podcast Patreon community [https://www.patreon.com/c/alotadhdpod]. Start with a 7-day free trial at any level, and when you join, take 15% off if you subscribe annually. Visit the “You Are A Lot” (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage [http://www.jenkirkman.com/alotpod] Subscribe to the “This Is A Lot” Newsletter [https://www.jenkirkman.com/newsletter] 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals [https://www.hugimalsworld.com/JENKIRKMAN] 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks [https://appointed.co/JENKIRKMAN] 20% off UnHide Weighted Blankets & Pillows [https://unhide.us/JEN20] 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! [https://www.brain.fm/alotpod] Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: ADDitude Magazine: Setting The Record Straight [https://www.additudemag.com/adhd-article-new-york-times/?srsltid=AfmBOopMUVA6NrncP6aPFonhDK6IR4is9uVNCXJp19Myn7j5m6IEzVrn] Dr. Russell Barkley On YouTube [https://youtu.be/-8GlhCmdkOw?si=v0TM6U4_IjsxcVvF]

This week’s episode is Patreon only. This was a long one so I am sharing 15 minutes of the episode and I highly recommend joining the Patreon and getting this episode.  In this episode: Ever heard of limerence? It’s not quite love, not quite lust—but something way more intense, obsessive, and irrational. I’m taking a close look at this state of deep distress that starts with euphoric highs. I reference Dr. Dorothy Tennov’s original research, what modern psychologists are debating now, and how hyperfocus, rejection sensitivity, and impulsivity all play a role in this heartbreaking, confusing experience. SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, video classes, AMA’s, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT in the “You Are a LOT” podcast Patreon community [https://www.patreon.com/c/alotadhdpod]. Start with a 7-day-free-trial at any level, and when you join take 15% off if you subscribe annually. Visit the “You Are A Lot” (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage [http://www.jenkirkman.com/alotpod] Subscribe to the “This Is A Lot” Newsletter [https://www.jenkirkman.com/newsletter] 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals [https://www.hugimalsworld.com/JENKIRKMAN] 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks [https://appointed.co/JENKIRKMAN] 20% off UnHide Weighted Blankets & PIllows [https://unhide.us/JEN20] 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! [https://www.brain.fm/alotpod] Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Dr. Tom Living With Limerence Blog [https://livingwithlimerence.com/what-is-limerence/] Dr. Tom Purposeful Living [https://livingwithlimerence.com/what-does-it-mean-to-be-purposeful/] Psychology Today Who Is Vulnerable To Limerence [https://www.notion.so/PATREON-ONLY-EP-42-LIMERENCE-04-20-25-1ce2aaec4c4f802daf38e63799e44d6f?pvs=21] Healthline ADHD Limerence [https://www.healthline.com/health/adhd/adhd-limerence#the-connection] Dr. Dorothy Tennov “Love and Limerence” Book [https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-and-limerence-the-experience-of-being-in-love-2nd-edition-dorothy-tennov/14885525?ean=9780812862867&next=t]

In this episode: Did anyone ever tell you that being a PEOPLE PLEASER is a core trait in ADHD/AuDHD Humans? In this episode, I’ll tell you all about it. Spoiler Alert: It has to do with our coping mechanisms that we developed early on in order to avoid rejection and seeking validation from others due to our feelings of inadequacy because of our (especially undiagnosed) ADHD/AuDHD. And get Set Boundaries Find Peace for 20% off with my unique link to Bookshop Dot Org - click here for your copy [https://bookshop.org/p/books/set-boundaries-find-peace-a-guide-to-reclaiming-yourself-nedra-glover-tawwab/15537354?ean=9780593192092&next=t]   SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, video classes, AMA’s, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT in the “You Are a LOT” podcast Patreon community [https://www.patreon.com/c/alotadhdpod]. Start with a 7-day-free-trial at any level, and when you join take 15% off if you subscribe annually. Visit the “You Are A Lot” (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage [http://www.jenkirkman.com/alotpod] Subscribe to the “This Is A Lot” Newsletter [https://www.jenkirkman.com/newsletter] 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals [https://www.hugimalsworld.com/JENKIRKMAN] 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks [https://appointed.co/JENKIRKMAN] 20% off UnHide Weighted Blankets & PIllows [https://unhide.us/JEN20] 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! [https://www.brain.fm/alotpod] Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com   SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Why ADHD Makes You Feel So Much [https://www.additudemag.com/slideshows/adhd-emotions-how-they-affect-your-life/] How Can I Stop People Pleasing At Work? [https://www.additudemag.com/people-pleasing-work-adhd/] Are You A People Pleaser? [https://chadd.org/attention-article/are-you-a-people-pleaser/] ADHD & People Pleasing: What’s The Correalation? [https://www.adhdcentre.co.uk/adhd-and-people-pleasing-whats-the-correlation/] Set Boundaries Find Peace [https://bookshop.org/p/books/set-boundaries-find-peace-a-guide-to-reclaiming-yourself-nedra-glover-tawwab/15537354?ean=9780593192092&next=t]

In this episode: ADHD/AuDHD humans often struggle with boundaries—whether it's setting them with others or even recognizing our own internal limits. We might not realize a boundary needs to be set until it's already been crossed, leaving us overwhelmed, resentful, and frustrated. In this episode, I talk about how impulsivity, time management challenges, and emotional regulation difficulties all play a role in why boundary-setting can be so hard for us. And get Set Boundaries Find Peace for 20% off with my unique link to Bookshop Dot Org - click here for your copy [https://bookshop.org/p/books/set-boundaries-find-peace-a-guide-to-reclaiming-yourself-nedra-glover-tawwab/15537354?ean=9780593192092&next=t] SHOW NOTES: 🎉 Right now I’ve got a special discount if you join the “You Are A Lot” podcast Patreon annually - you get 25% off any tier! Get a year for $24-$79 only depending on your tier. CLICK HERE [https://www.patreon.com/c/ALOTADHDPOD] and use code: 29A43 (Bonus episodes, transcripts, live online events, private chat community and more!) And get Set Boundaries Find Peace for 20% off with my unique link to Bookshop Dot Org - click here for your copy [https://bookshop.org/p/books/set-boundaries-find-peace-a-guide-to-reclaiming-yourself-nedra-glover-tawwab/15537354?ean=9780593192092&next=t] Click here to write a 5-star review of the podcast [https://reviewthispodcast.com/-E2-80-9Cyou-are-a-lot-E2-80-9D--28an-adhd-podcast-29] Visit the “You Are A Lot” (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage [http://www.jenkirkman.com/alotpod] Subscribe to the “This Is A Lot” Newsletter [https://www.jenkirkman.com/newsletter] Jen’s Unique Link For 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals [https://www.hugimalsworld.com/JENKIRKMAN] Jen’s Unique Link for 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks [https://appointed.co/JENKIRKMAN] Jen’s Unique Link for 20% off UnHide Weighted Blankets & PIllows [https://unhide.us/JEN20] Jen’s Unique LInk for 20% off Books at Bookshop Dot Org [https://bookshop.org/shop/jenkirkman] Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Poor Boundaries and ADHD - Sachs Center [https://sachscenter.com/poor-boundaries-and-adhd/] How To Create Healthy Boundaries When You Have ADHD [https://untappedbrilliance.com/how-to-create-healthy-boundaries-when-you-have-adhd/] Focused Mind: Boundaries and ADHD [https://focusedmindadhdcounseling.com/boundaries-and-adhd-three-reasons-adhders-struggle-with-boundaries-and-three-steps-to-start-setting-them-today/] Focused Mind: Learning To Say No With Adult ADHD [https://focusedmindadhdcounseling.com/learning-to-say-no-with-adult-adhd-five-ways-setting-boundaries-can-improve-work-life-balance/] Why Is It So Difficult To Set Boundaries? [https://www.joanlipuscek.com/child-therapy-news/why-is-it-so-difficult-for-individuals-with-adhd-to-set-boundaries] Set Boundaries Find Peace - Nedra Glover Tawwab [https://bookshop.org/p/books/set-boundaries-find-peace-a-guide-to-reclaiming-yourself-nedra-glover-tawwab/15537354?ean=9780593192092&next=t]